Inspiration Behind “Psycho Chicks” Article
After reading and receiving several comments regarding my “Psycho Chicks and the Men Who Turn Them Psycho” post, I felt the need to explain why I decided to write it.
First of all, I would like to apologize to any readers (female or male) who found this article to be offensive, or felt I was pushing propaganda to label women as crazy. Some of you saw the humor in the content, as did I when I completed the article, but some of you took it to heart and I realized this may have hit close to home for some women, bringing back unpleasant memories of past relationships that they would rather forget.
You see, I wasn’t really sure where I wanted to go with this article. The inspiration came from a female friend of mine who was also a mutual friend of a guy I use to date, who had dumped me over the phone one night out of the blue. I guess the “psycho” in me would be I had kept tabs on his dating life for a whole year after our break-up. My friend had told me how he had dumped the girl he went out with after me and how that girl went “crazy”. All of a sudden, stories I had heard from guys I had dated regarding their “psycho” exes started flooding back into my mind.
My first attempt to write the article was aimed toward a more serious note; me blaming men for making me act the way I did when they wronged me, but then I couldn’t bring myself to fully blame them. I realized, the common denominator in every messed up relationship I’ve ever had, was me. I chose to be with those men and I chose to let them drive me crazy, because most of those guys were pretty messed up themselves.
However, while piecing together all the stories, as well as remembering how my relationship with each and every one of those guys ended, I decided not to give them the satisfaction of knowing how much traumatizing grief and heartache they caused me when it was my turn to face the bullshit they threw at me.
Instead, I wanted men to read this article and realize that some women know all about their little mind games when they tell us the stories of their “crazy” ex-girlfriends. I wanted them to see how this does not reassure us or make us feel more confident about our relationship with them upon hearing these stories.
I also wanted them to understand that by doing some very simple things, such as being honest, open, and considerate, many so-called “crazy” scenarios could be avoided. If most women are anything like me, all I ever wanted, even if the guy realized I was not the one for him, was to be broken up with in a mature and respectful manner, instead of by way of “ignore you till you get the hint” method. I admit, even when the guy has given me the courtesy of a proper break-up, I usually still end up ripping him a new one, and leave him cowering in shame as I walk out of his life, but what can I say? I’m just a very passionate person. However, the point is, that’s about it. I never follow up with any “crazy vendettas” if he’s honest with me.
To conclude, I did not mean to bash women. I understand these stories are all from men, and I should have talked to women about some of the shitty things men have done to them to put them on an emotional roller-coaster at one point or another. But after being on so many crazy rides myself, I just wanted to just get off and to show I’m not that “psycho chick” some guy has labeled me, and at this very moment, may be telling his current girlfriend “psycho” stories about. I wanted women to realize that this insanity was temporary, and if you were with the right guy, he would never deem anything you say or do to be “psycho”.
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